I’m a detrans man, 28 years old. This is my first public article on the topic of detransition, so thank you for reading! I detransitioned 6 years ago, ever so gradually learning how to properly handle and heal from feelings of gender dysphoria (GD) and the perceptions that come with it;
Mum of a gay son now medicalising. I don’t affirm him taking this course of action. He is gay and a baker not a fighter. Society struggles with males who don’t conform to sexist expectations. At the same time he can’t bring himself to identify with the sex that bullied him. He also can’t identify with the sex that harms women. In that sense his “identity” comes from a good space but he also won’t acknowledge the harm males are doing by identifying into our sex class, taking female only roles, entering our single sex spaces. (He does not do any of these things by they way). I am sure I have made many mistakes as I try to reconcile him to his sex and sexuality. We both try to navigate this terrain with love. I hope you find peace. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and insights. I am the mother of an adult son, who has socially transitioned and suffers from GD. Keep on sharing. You will definitely help others to understand.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your baring your beautiful soul. It is helpful for those who have never experienced these feelings, to hear your inner dialogue and conflict. I am the mother of a 20 year old child that was born a female, presented with ROGD during COVID, and has been injecting T for almost 2 years. I'm desperately trying to help my child find relief from pain and suffering, and get help with underlying mental health issues before any medicalization. At this age, I have no say, sitting back and watching this unfold in front of me. I'm devastated. My inner momma-bear is screaming and I feel like no can hear me. Just wanting relief for my child from pain and anxiety in life that won't/can't be found through life-long pharmaceutical use and surgery. That pain and suffering will still be there, waiting...Need to find the source of that pain and suffering first, which will take years: growth, maturity, life experience, time...maybe after the exploration of the body/gender dysmorphia, then possibly move forward? I don't know. Trying desperately to understand and help without hurting and making things worse. Just want to show love through all of this. Not sure that I am, but desperately trying... All people need to find what is right for them-no one else can tell you what that is. You must find it for yourself. Not all will agree and be supportive either way, must learn to live and be ok with that, somehow. Only you can find your own inner peace. Good luck and God bless. Stay strong! Our God is big and strong enough to handle our doubts, and still love us-the imperfect humans that we are.
Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability, Njada. It would be so much easier to hide behind an identity group orthodoxy. Please check out my writing and share with friends and followers if it’s of any value. My writing helps me think too.
Mum of a gay son now medicalising. I don’t affirm him taking this course of action. He is gay and a baker not a fighter. Society struggles with males who don’t conform to sexist expectations. At the same time he can’t bring himself to identify with the sex that bullied him. He also can’t identify with the sex that harms women. In that sense his “identity” comes from a good space but he also won’t acknowledge the harm males are doing by identifying into our sex class, taking female only roles, entering our single sex spaces. (He does not do any of these things by they way). I am sure I have made many mistakes as I try to reconcile him to his sex and sexuality. We both try to navigate this terrain with love. I hope you find peace. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and insights. I am the mother of an adult son, who has socially transitioned and suffers from GD. Keep on sharing. You will definitely help others to understand.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your baring your beautiful soul. It is helpful for those who have never experienced these feelings, to hear your inner dialogue and conflict. I am the mother of a 20 year old child that was born a female, presented with ROGD during COVID, and has been injecting T for almost 2 years. I'm desperately trying to help my child find relief from pain and suffering, and get help with underlying mental health issues before any medicalization. At this age, I have no say, sitting back and watching this unfold in front of me. I'm devastated. My inner momma-bear is screaming and I feel like no can hear me. Just wanting relief for my child from pain and anxiety in life that won't/can't be found through life-long pharmaceutical use and surgery. That pain and suffering will still be there, waiting...Need to find the source of that pain and suffering first, which will take years: growth, maturity, life experience, time...maybe after the exploration of the body/gender dysmorphia, then possibly move forward? I don't know. Trying desperately to understand and help without hurting and making things worse. Just want to show love through all of this. Not sure that I am, but desperately trying... All people need to find what is right for them-no one else can tell you what that is. You must find it for yourself. Not all will agree and be supportive either way, must learn to live and be ok with that, somehow. Only you can find your own inner peace. Good luck and God bless. Stay strong! Our God is big and strong enough to handle our doubts, and still love us-the imperfect humans that we are.
Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability, Njada. It would be so much easier to hide behind an identity group orthodoxy. Please check out my writing and share with friends and followers if it’s of any value. My writing helps me think too.